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Moneeka Sawyer is often described as one of the most blissful people you will ever meet.   She has been investing in Real Estate for over 20 years, so has been through all the different cycles of the market.  Still, she has turned $10,000 into over $5,000,000, working only 5-10 hours per MONTH with very little stress. While building her multi-million dollar business, she has traveled to over 55 countries, dances every single day, supports causes that are important to her, and spends lots of time with her husband of over 20 years. She is the international best-selling author of the multiple award-winning books "Choose Bliss: The Power and Practice of Joy and Contentment" and “Real Estate Investing for Women: Expert Conversations to Increase Wealth and Happiness the Blissful Way.” Moneeka has been featured on stages including Carnegie Hall and Nasdaq, radio, podcasts such as Achieve Your Goals with Hal Elrod,  and TV stations including ABC, CBS, FOX, and the CW, impacting over 150 million people.

Tapping your way to your outrageous goals with Ellen Anne Shapiro

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Ellen Anne, is a money mindset & business coach. She helps women clear their hidden money blocks, fears of success and visibility, and break through their inner income glass ceiling, so they can earn what they deserve, and create the income and impact they’re here to make.  She brings her two careers to this work—her financial background (MBA/CPA) and coaching career with multiple certifications including Tapping Into Wealth Coaching, Energy healing, and the Art of Feminine Presence.

In her VIP days and coaching Ellen uses fast-working laser techniques for clearing  money blocks, feeling undeserving, impostor syndrome and other obstacles.  Her compassionate, non-judgmental presence is a healing antidote to the shame and self-judgement so common around money–and comes from years of working as a healer and her personal money journeys through post-inheritance trauma, bankruptcy and reinventing herself after personal and business losses.

In this EXTRA we talked about:

  1. How to deal with your resistance to goal setting
  2. We do an actual tapping exercise to help you release the blocks holding you back from reaching your outrageous goals.

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Randy Lawrence On Balancing Real Estate Focus Between Earning Money And Helping Others

 

Playing the jack of all trades card in real estate is not a good idea. Instead, the best real estate focus is all about determining which type of property you can make the most money out of. But one essential factor must not be forgotten when laying out your strategy: going beyond expectations and helping people. Moneeka Sawyer is joined by Randy Lawrence of Prosperity Capital Partners, dubbed as the Real Estate Preacher, to share his secrets in designing such an elaborate plan that actually works. He shares how he maintains a consistent real estate cashflow by concentrating on deals aligned with his goals and values, all while serving the people through small gifts and free programs.

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Randy Lawrence On Balancing Real Estate Focus Between Earning Money And Helping Others

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I am so excited to welcome to the show, Randy Lawrence, who is known as The Real Estate Preacher. Success as a Financial Advisor and Wealth Manager wasn’t enough for Randy Lawrence in 2003. He knew there was a better way to build wealth and was determined to find it for himself and his family, and that’s what led him to real estate. He has been operating as an investor since 2003. He has had double-digit real estate investor returns with no loss of capital for seventeen years. He has single-family houses and has flipped 75 homes a year. He has over $100 million in ownership and management of apartment complexes and he has a Bachelor’s in Finance and a minor in Economics. How are you, Randy?

It’s awesome to be connected together on the show. I’m so excited about being a blessing to all of your readers.

Give us the two-minute high level story of what got you into real estate and what ignited your passion for it?

My degree is in Finance Economics. I knew at eighteen or whatever, the movie Wall Street was out and I’m going to be a stockbroker and all that back then. I got my degree in Finance and became a stockbroker. I opened my company. I was a money manager and registered investment advisor. I bought my first multifamily, a little small duplex in ‘99 and saw the power of what real estate could do in terms of the consistency of the return. The beta adjusted return or risk adjusted return, comparative to what we were doing in these stock portfolios compared to what I was getting in this real estate.

It began to set that in motion like, “This is benefiting me so much. I want to be able to benefit my clients,” because stock market regardless of how good you are, there’s the up and down. In 2003, we started the private equity company and started focusing on purchasing apartments and single-family homes, working together to help other investors be able to leverage that. We sold our money management company in 2006 and 2003, as I said, started our real estate investing career and journey and helping others as well.

Is that your main focus? You don’t do any of the money management stuff anymore?

No. There was a bit of time where it overlapped from ‘03 to ‘06 and then ‘06, I sold my company to some other advisors that we were partnered together with, and they took over the practice and the management of the clients. A number of those clients came with me as well, also at the same time, some people were conditioned for stocks and bonds. We began focusing on preaching that message, if you will, hence the real estate preacher of what real estate can do for your financial life. Other investors started coming and investing with us either in the small apartment buildings or in the houses. From that period of time to now, I probably flipped a thousand houses. We still have a residential division that buy, fix and sell, about 75 houses a year. Our main focus is in the large-scale multifamily. We have now about 135 million, roughly fifteen apartment complexes, large-scale 75-unit to 200-unit apartment complexes. That continues to be our focus going forward as we scale and grow the company.

It is interesting to me that you moved from financial planner to real estate instead of integrating the two, which indicates your passion for real estate. I’ve seen a lot of people that try to marry them. They feel like the real wealth planning is as a financial planner, and real estate is this other thing. I’m like you, it’s all about the real estate. That’s where the real money is.

One of the things you touched on in the bio, genuinely we’ve had seventeen years with all our private capital individuals. I’ve never lost any money and made double-digit returns. I could not say that as a wealth money manager in the stock arena because the truth is you have the tech crash in ‘99. People lost money in their portfolio. There were other recessions that we went through. That’s the nature of the stock market investment. You’re going to balance it out, “This year is up 30%, this year it’s down 15%.” That’s a difficult thing. Even though I understand that, not everybody can tolerate that. Plenty of people when they’re down 20%, they couldn’t stomach it anymore. They’ve got to sell to assuage that difficulties and they’re locked in that loss. It was something I saw the benefits of the real estate is you have such greater stability and greater return, and you don’t have that massive volatility that you have and you still have the ability to get those double digit returns. When I looked at that I’m like, “Hands down, this is the way for my family and me, no doubt, to create wealth for our family.” It’s the best way to do that for others.

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When you talk about double digit returns, I know I’m totally skipping the gun. What kinds of returns are you guys looking at? We’ll talk more about how he does it. I’m curious.

Anywhere from 10% to 14% and then consistently over the seventeen years, 12% as a consistent return. Even some of our growth-oriented projects we do probably are sixteen-plus type return. For the longer term history, it’s right there 12%. What I’ve learned is consistency is what’s sexy. Sometimes people are, “There’s 20% thing. It’s up, it’s down.” The real pathway to generating long-term wealth is to consistently make money, keep the money that you have, consistently grow it well and that’s generational wealth that you accumulate.

That’s funny the way that you said that. There have been many people on this show that talk about, “Make money fast. You buy foreclosures, do this, do that.” There have not been that many on this show, but I hear it all around, “Do your flips. Become a wholesale or do all these things.” It’s a glorified job, but it’s sexy because it’s money that happens fast. My strategy of buy, hold, wait, have good tenants, keep them up, build equity, build cashflow, it doesn’t sound that sexy because it takes time.

The reality is you can jump to every other opportunity out there. There’s one that will perform consistently. That’s looking at real estate, whether you’re doing syndication, a part of your multi-unit, single-family homes, mobile home parks, whatever it is you’re doing, have the long-term vision to hold on and stay in the game. There will be times when it goes down, but it’s not going to go down like the stock market does. There’s usually going to be a recovery, give yourself the time to be right and to benefit.

That’s the thing you nailed too. By having quality cashflowing real estate type investments, that if there is a period where it’s a little bit on a down slope, whether it’s in the economy or that particular area, that consistency of the cashflow helps to continue to support through that period of time as you navigate through it. There are many benefits to real estate that are not imbued to other investments. I talk to people, “I’m the turtle of the tortoise and the hare.” The turtle won the race by consistency. Jack rabbit jumped around here and there, doing this, doing that. At the end of the story, he lost the race.

When I go back to what has been one of our keys to the success over that period of time is that discipline. We’ve been super disciplined and very focused. It’s not like, “This year we’re doing a ground up construction in Vegas. Next year, I’m doing storage in Europe. Next year, I’m doing condos in Belize.” That’s not it at all. We’re focused, very clear about what we’re going to do. To some people, they go, “That’s boring.” Making real money and accumulating real wealth has a boring component to it because you’re doing this same thing over and over consistently. It’s about the result. I know you preach about what the lifestyle can be, the blissful element of what you’re able to achieve. That’s what got to be a driver for people in their decision-making process.

It is boring. If you want exciting, go to the stock market. Leave us 50% at the beginning of the year. If that’s what you want to do, go do that.

Go skydiving for the adventure but keep your money growing great.

You talked about discipline as being one of the keys to success. What are the other ones?

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Real Estate Focus: Even if you don’t have that massive volatility, you can still get those double-digit returns.

 

The other one is critical. It’s not only the discipline, but then the focus. I love the fact too with the readers being able to partake of your wisdom and then even in the inner circle to learn more as well too, is that you can hear what different people are doing and saying, “I see that this area is the right area for me.” For us, it’s mutifamily apartment complexes. That’s the thing that we’ve developed in a very niche focus, even within with workforce housing, for regular working Americans. With that focus, we’ve been able to identify exactly what works well, what the systems are, the economics behind it. Now, it gives us liberation or freedom to skew these one-off opportunities that don’t fit in there.

Somebody calls me up, “I got this incredible ground-up project in Vegas. You should partner with us and do it.” The truth is that would suck me into a black hole of doing all this stuff over here that’s not within our focus. It doesn’t mean people don’t make money in that arena. It doesn’t mean that may not be something in the future we would develop as a whole division with the right resources, but it’s not within our focus. That’s where with the focus we’re able to scale. That’s such a thing that people miss out on because you alluded to it in an earlier comment where people are like, “I’m going to do the flipping. I’m going to do the wholesaling. I’m going to do this. They’re doing lease options. That sounds great.” You become a Jack of all trades and a master of none.

I sent out an email that was, “You’re going to make mistakes. Things are going to get hard at some point,” because usually in the very beginning, that’s where your learning curve is. Every single time if things get hard, that’s when you jump, you never ever get to see success. The truth is it will always be hard in the beginning. Even if it’s an easy strategy, buy a house, put a renter in, wait for twenty years. In the beginning, you’re going to be like, “There are these contracts. I have to make decisions on contingencies. Do I buy a pretty house or do I buy what I’m going to fix up?” There are still decisions. It’s never as easy as somebody who’s successful tells you it is, because they’re excited about their success.

They’re not focusing on what didn’t work. They’re focusing on what they’re successful at. When you get in there, now you get to determine, you get to see what it’s like to be in the mud to be doing the work. It’s never a cakewalk in the beginning. Choose something that is aligned with you and your goals. We’ve talked about that too, aligned with your goals, aligned with who you are, how much money you want to make and how much time you’ve got to make it. Do you want to cashflow or appreciation? Do you want to be hands on? Do you want to do syndication? What is it? Stick with it. Over the long run, there are a million ways to make $1 million in real estate. We don’t have to pick exactly the right one.

That’s the thing too that you said that’s right on is I talk to people about that, even investors that invest with us like, “You have to come to what’s true for you. You have to do what’s in alignment for you and then be okay with that.” It may not be that everybody’s cup of tea is to have ownership of twenty houses that they’re managing themselves. I know friends that have 800 houses. Everybody has got a different temperament, everybody has got a different aptitude, a different core that works well for them. That’s what you got to see, what’s the right thing and that’s going to help you because you’re going to have to stay with it. That’s the key. I remember in 2008, people in real estate, they were gone. The market crashed.

In Florida where I’m at, it dropped 50%. It was a ghost town and other people that were investors instead of fighting through those things fled and went back to that work for Bank of America. “Real estate is getting better in 2013. I’m going to come back.” You missed the goal. The goal was working through the difficulties. Quite frankly, that’s what also helped us to become super strategic. Having to go through those fires created a refinement in us so that we were very laser-focused on being strategic from mistakes that you’re learning from in the middle of that, to then now be hyper-intensely focused, being strategic about looking ahead, multiple years out in the decisions you make how that plays out down the road. The people that jumped out because it was too difficult, they missed out on that gold. That’s why we are where we are at and where they’re at.

Randy, I love the way you talked about that whole crash. I’ve heard on this show that anybody who says they didn’t lose money in 2008 are lying. I know that I did not lose any money. I ended up making $1 million within five years. What that had to do was not that I’m brilliant, but that I had the long-term vision. I didn’t foresee this and I made bad choices but I had a very core strategy, which was I needed to never be so leveraged that I couldn’t cover my mortgages either with my reserve funds or with my rents. It’s super simple things. What happened for me too is in 2008, when our properties are all lost 50% and at least the mortgages were being covered by my renters, it didn’t make me take a look at even me, “What is my vision of my business?”

Getting strategic, taking a look at the thing that we didn’t think would ever happen in California happened. Many of my friends lost their shirts. It was horrible. That’s not what happened to us. We’re lucky, but we were also very strategic and have become more so. I love that you talk about that even with multifamily. Could you tell us about what did you learn? What were those pieces that you took out of that?

The number one thing I would say is strategic in decision-making because there are some of the things ahead of that where we are located in Pinellas County, which is the Tampa Bay, MSA of Florida, super white hot real estate market at the time. Quite honestly, we were buying properties as to where you could get them. It was hard to get them. You get what you get and don’t throw a fit. When the crash came and the meltdown came and again, there were a lot of things, whole neighborhoods went ghost with foreclosures. We even saw in some of our lower-end apartment complexes in D area, smaller places, the rents dropped almost in half because people were almost given houses away to rent them to fill them back up.

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It showed me the lack of clarity that some of the decisions were made in the earlier years, say maybe in ‘05 and ‘06, that then were difficult now in ‘08, ‘09 that I had to work through. Working through those difficulties, it made me see the power of being strategic and understanding the way I’m making this decisions now. What are those ramifications as to what it looks like 3, 5, 10 years from now, and then making sure that they’re aligned. In fact, what we do now is we work mostly backwards, where I want to be, where my firm wants to be 5, 10 years from now. We just went through a thing where we are working out 30 years from now. When we talked about Tahoe before the show, I can see myself at 85 in my office, overlooking Tahoe in my home as the chairman, talking to the CEO. I’m mapping out those plans now for that, which is 35 years from now.

Being strategic now, that’s very dry, not exciting for a lot of people because it includes being pragmatic, where you’re not emotionally driven by it, but you’re looking at more of a factual thing. It’s more of a calculated focus decision-making. That would probably be the number one thing. The number two thing is being in the right areas. Even now, we skewed a purchase in one of the areas we’re in because the pocket it was in on a dead end street was surrounded by some other unwell run complexes that had suffered in the last downturn and still hadn’t got back significantly.

What that made us think about is, “If we have a little bit more economic softening, you’ve got two other properties dragging this thing down and you’re on a dead end cul-de-sac with other lackluster properties in an area that’s not as desirable. You’re fighting against the stream. No, thanks. We’ll pass.” We had that from the experience of 2008, where some of the properties that were in less desirable areas, they were good cashflow before but not when it went bad.

Being very focused on what is the right area, what are the things around you that make it a good area? You don’t have to be in an A-class area to be a good area, but you have to have good drivers. You’ve got to have good quality people. You’ve got to have good economics for jobs. There have got to be positive things that exist there so that when economics have a little bit of a struggle, your area is still weathering that well and your investments are doing well.

I loved the way you said about going downstream or going upstream. You talked about a stream. For me, one of the things that I always tell people is never be the nicest house on a block, never be the nicest building on a block. You want to make sure that you’re in the flow and that you’re not pulling it down or pulling it up. Because if you’re pulling it up, that means others are pulling you down.

You nailed it on your houses you alluded to is the underwriting is critical. You made sure that your debt was going to be supported. One of our principles that we operate by in our underwriting of investment complexes is we’re never the pioneer, always the settler. If we have to say, “We’re going to be the first one in the marketplace to charge $1,200 rent.” That’s not the place we’re buying. We want to be that there are three competitors offering $1,200 rent. Our rent is $975. We’re going to renovate the place and now offer our rent at $1,150. We’re a little cheaper than them or just as nice if not nicer because it’s brand new renovations and we’re not leading. We’re cleaning up behind them because we’re offering a better product at a better price. What I believe is also better management with better focus on benefiting our tenants.

I run my business the exact same way. It’s good to hear somebody else doing the same thing. They’re fully remodeled, absolutely stunning. I’m always in the middle of the range of what I could charge for that. I’m always a little bit cheaper from a much nicer place. We have all the other core values as you too is putting a good home, making sure that the tenants are happy, management has done well and all of those things.

I was talking with another person about this. It’s the thing that a lot of people learned in Sunday school as a kid. They’re the principle of, “Give and it’s given to you.” A lot of times, if we’re honest as a human being, we’re a little selfish. We want to take care of ourselves first. The funny thing about it is the principle is true. If you will give to help the other human beings, then God, the universe, however you want to put that together, it comes back to you and you receive it. The amount that you have actually grows.

Even for me, when I was a stockbroker and a young guy at eighteen, I wanted to become a stockbroker because Gordon Gekko and stockbroker and making money is like, “What better place to make money than where the money is?” As I matured and grew, it became less about me making money and more about, “What can I do that’s going to benefit other people?” Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill talks about that as well. That’s a key component is serving others will now then begin to enrich you. That’s the truth. It takes us a while to get there. At least, it took me.

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Real Estate Focus: Having a consistent cash flow can help support you through a period of time navigating in the real estate industry.

 

It takes a level of maturity for sure on that. In real estate, the numbers have to work but you don’t have to nickel and dime them to work. In other words, you don’t need to charge $1,250. You can charge $1,175. As long as the numbers still work, you’re going to do better because your renters will stay longer. Everybody is going to be happier. This is the thing that happens so much in real estate investing when you’re talking about flipping and wholesaling and these other things that we do. Your margins are so tight that you have to pay attention to those nickels and dimes. I much prefer to run a business that’s about giving, expansion and creating good things for our communities and for our renters. It’s a very different mindset.

This then goes back to the underwriting that you started off with too. If you fudge your numbers and people do this all the time, where they try to make the deal work. They push the limit of the numbers or everything’s got to be exactly perfect, razor-sharp perfect for it to work. What happens is they do it, they buy it and then 6 months, 12 months in they’re experiencing these problems. They’ve got to be pushed to the thread to try to make it all work. That goes back to me having an experience in 2008 and going through that fire, I learned it a long time ago. I’d rather not buy a deal than have to pay for it three years from now with all headaches and problems.

That’s where sticking to your core, criteria and value or however you want to put it to make sure your numbers work. If it’s a deal that doesn’t work, it’s not a deal. You move on through it. We’ve created an entire system where we have an underwriting system where every week I get a two-page 11×14 sheet with our team meeting at one of our acquisition underwriting people. We’re underwriting a bunch of properties to filter through which ones are no good which one trickle up to meet our criteria. We’re able to then hone into those top 2 or 3 that fit our criteria and then see out of those three, “This one looks like it’s going to work for us.” It’s a lot of work. There’s no success I’ve ever seen that doesn’t entail that discipline in work.

There’s a lot of focus with you and your company with helping to create a better life for working class Americans through apartments. You do syndications of apartments. Your whole focus is about benefiting the tenants lives, benefiting the investors and of course benefiting your company. There’s a win-win-win. You came to me as a referral from someone I very much respect, I know that’s not lip service. That’s something that you live by. There’s Twelve Tenets of Bliss and one of them is giving back. Feeling blessed for what we have and then giving back and sharing that with the world. I know that’s where you come from too. Could you talk about that?

We’ve started our initiatives. Premise number one is it’s got to be financially sound complex, for sure. You can’t benefit others if you’re not on stable ground. It’s got to be a solid investment, but we go in and we’re now transforming the community to make it a better quality of life physically. We’re making the exterior appear better, be nicer. We’re transitioning out, some of the tenants that don’t fit that model because we’re inheriting some of them that maybe are not quality disciplined, hardworking people. We’re transitioning them out, get the bad apples that may ruin the bunch so to speak. We’re then also renovating and transforming the insidesto have a new, nice quality apartment.

From there, we’re also implementing standardswith our management team and our maintenance where we want maintenance items addressed within 24 hours. It’s maybe a small thing. Parts got to be ordered, but they’re still being addressed in 24 hours so that this person knows they’re being taken care of. It’s fixed, three days later when the part comes in, but that’s a requirement and a KPI that we put in place to monitor for our management team and to see how they’re doing on that. What we’ve also done is to do community initiatives.

In 2021, we’re rolling out on a national basis with one of our internal team members to have a KPI, the eyes as probably a third of their job is making sure these projects and these programs are happening at every complex. What that is, we are doing a back to school drive for the complexes and empowering them, partnering together with oftentimes local faith-based organizations or community-based organizations. We’re providing these back to school backpacks, but also connecting them together for those that want with additional resources of people that can be helped to them in the community.

Also doing a Mother’s Day thing, where we go to all of the single moms in the community. We deliver to them flowers and a Starbucks gift card recognizing, “You’re making a sacrifice as a single mom. We appreciate and respect that and want to bless you and encourage you.” A lot of times, that’s a thankless job and something that simple goes a long way. The other thing is doing a spring or summer festival there at the complex with hot dogs, cookout and celebration and community feel. All of it is design to impart to the residents.

We’re also working with another organization, non-profit organization to develop a financial literacy program to help them develop financial acumen. I’ve got another couple of friends of mine that have done entrepreneur-based programs. That’s a second generation that this is all of it’s free. If you’re living in our complex, it’s free. If you want to learn how to better manage your money, you can go through this course to learn how to better manage your money. If you have a desire to become entrepreneur, here are some principles through this entrepreneurial track. I’d love to get the development of a real estate program too, to teach, whether it’s wholesaling. There are several other educator people I know as well that in that space, but that’ll be another track.

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The design of it is to help prosper their life. First, their own wellbeing living in the complex. Secondly, their financial ability to manage their affairs better. Third, a spiritual connection. If that’s something that’s desired and fourth, a greater sense of community in where they live. We’re excited. We’ve done it at numerous complexes, but the exciting thing is as part of someone’s job within our company, that’s going to be 1/3 to 50% of their job role full-time is ensuring that these programs are carried out at every complex. Reporting back as part of their regular monthly, quarterly KPIs.

I’ve never heard of anybody that does that.

I came from a broken home, single-parent, predominant, upbringing and didn’t have any money. Powdered milk was I thought was what milk was until I went to a friend’s house and realized, “There’s real milk.” I recognize that many of the people that live in our complexes that are regular working Americans making $30,000 to $60,000 a year. A lot of those folks are going to be permanent renters for life based on where they’re at. Our goal and desire is to help them to have a better quality of life. The by-product of this and it goes back to what we said about the give and it’s given to you, is that there’s going to bemore stickiness in the community, less turnover. Any number of economic benefits of will come from that but our primary motivation is to genuinely benefit those people’s lives. Most people, if we’re honest about it, they don’t care about it other than what is the financial metric.

They’re like, “I don’t give a crap about that. What’s my return? What’s my money?” That’s not where we’re coming from. I believe that also generates even what will be a greater success than what we’ve already achieved because that’s our mission and our intent. I think the second driver of that is the empowering our investors. That came in 2015. I had a lady that was invested with us for about probably thirteen years at that time. She said, “Randy, I want to thank you for what you’ve done for my family.” I’m like, “What do you mean?” She said, “It’s because of investing with you, when the economy tanked that income buoyed my business.” She owned a retail furniture business in a commercial Plaza. In 2008, nobody is buying furniture. They could barely keep their house.

She said, “After that in ‘09 and ‘10, both my kids were entering college. That income paid for one to become a school teacher and one to become a firefighter. At the time, I’m getting ready to sell the business in the plaza and put that with you to take care of my mom who’s dying of Alzheimer’s.” It was very impactful to me because we make money as well too. I’ve been in this for a long time. Sometimes you get a little immune to it. I’m out jogging on the beach. That’s a time where I think and talk to God and think through thoughts in my mind.

It was such a clear moment. It’s like, “Here are three generations of this family that their life was changed forever. The trajectory of three generations because of their ability to get secure quality returns in investing with us. She couldn’t become a real estate pro like me, but she was connected together with us and it literally changed their life.” That became more of a mission for me. To be on a mission to change people’s lives by being able to have that investment return. It dawned on me too. It’s like, “Where would you be if you hadn’t lost money over the last few years?” Most people are like, “I’ve lost,” because it’s true, whether it’s bad stock investment, bad business investment or bad whatever investment. That has been a super driver for me as well because people have asked me, “Randy, why don’t you go to Tahoe now?”

I love helping people. That’s part of the thing. For me it’s more of this mission to do more, to help more. It’s not at this point about getting more for Randy and Sara Jo. That’s the thing that’s super exciting for me and drives that. There were tons of stories we’ve got of investors that have invested with us that has changed their life. I think of one guy. A doctor and his wife they were their broker, at wherever brokerage firm. They had him on the live until you’re 90 and die plan. If you live to 90, you’ll have enough money. He had good amount money but that’s the plan. It’s like, “What a terrible plan?”

He transitioned over to real estate. They’re traveling on vacation. They support the Girl Scouts and Boy Scouts camp down the road that helped keep that open. Through their church, they support an orphanage in Brazil. They go there once a year on mission trips. Plus, they have enough money to provide for their own lifestyle and will have money at the end for an inheritance for their kids. They’re happy, excited and blissful. It’s super cool to see how that works.

I know that we’re going to talk more about this in EXTRA, but could you give us a high level of exactly how investors do this with you?

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Real Estate Focus: Being strategic can be a bit unexciting for many people because it calls for a pragmatic approach instead of being emotionally-driven.

 

What we do is we go in, we buy a complex let’s say for $10 million. We get government-backed Fannie Mae, Freddie Mac bank type loan for say $7.5 million. They then invest with us in that additional $2.5 million. They’re participating in the returns in that project. We’re doing all of the sourcing of the program or property. Management of the programs that we talked about, renovation and oversight of the complex. Everything from soup to nuts, start to finish, we oversee all of that. They’re getting basically a quarterly distribution off of the returns from the project. A built-in appreciation that when the property is later refinanced or sold, they’re getting paid at that time as well. The other thing that’s super amazing about multifamily apartments is the level of depreciation you get.

When you invest $100,000 round numbers, in that first year, you may get $7,000 or $8,000 in terms of income that comes in. In that first year, your typical depreciation may be $40,000, $45,000 as a loss in that first year. That offsets that tax responsibility on that $7,000, $8,000 income you received. It’s a super tax-efficient vehicle. For us, because of the volume of our business, what we do, we set it up where investors can now start investing. Like we used to do in the money management, you ladder the investments. After a period of years, call it maybe 2, 3 years, your investments are maturing where the complex is sold and now it goes into the next one and you start the process over again. You’re maximizing the tax efficiency of it.

It’s a hands-free opportunity for them to invest and to get a double-digit return, have security, have cashflow and have appreciation. That’s how it changed that doctor’s life. He was on the broker plan, which was like, “Draw your money down until you die.” Where with our investing, you’re getting cashflow that supports your lifestyle. You’re getting appreciation that’s built-in to grow it. If you’re still in a working phase, you can take that money that’s coming in on the cashflow and then reinvest it on the next deal as that’s accumulating.

Do you make those double digit returns from the very beginning like the second that you invest or is there a waiting period on that?

It’s typically a waiting period to experience that. Normally speaking, your cashflow is going to be 7% to 8% in that first year or two. To get that additional infusion, that’s going to bring you up into the double digit return. That’s going to come at the capital event probably in year three-ish. A lot of our programs are anywhere from 2 to 4years. We’re buying 5 to 8 complexes a year. With that, we have some projects that are 2, 3, 4 years in length, based on the size, the amount of work that’s got to be done, all of the variables that go into it. That way, that person can work with us to determine what’s the best fit for them as to how quickly they want to get to that place and then having that money reinvested. some people are like, “I’d rather put it with you and keep it for ten years.” We don’t go that long. Others would like to be in the shorter-term, two-year, because then they get that double-digit kicker in the backend.

Do you have a minimum to invest?

Typically on our deals, it’s a $100,000.

Randy has committed to hang out with us for EXTRA. He’s going to do a deeper dive on the power of syndication, which is what he’s talking about. You invest on a property that he is a managing and all of that stuff. We’re going to talk an EXTRA about that power of syndication and some of the intricate details that we don’t think about that he knows because he’s an expert. We’ll be doing that in EXTRA. Randy, could you tell everybody how they can reach you?

You can connect us at our website, which is www.PCPRE.net. That’s stands for Prosperity Capital Real Estate. You can connect with us there or check out The Real Estate Preacher Podcast. We’re happy to connect with you there as well.

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Thank you for that.

Thank you so much. What a blessing. I enjoyed it and I’m looking forward to EXTRA as well.

Are you ready for our three rapid-fire questions?

Yes.

Tell us one super tip on getting started in real estate.

Action is key. You have to take action. You’ve got to move forward. Be willing to not have it be exactly perfect. Move forward, take action and iterate. Take a change if you need to, but take it to action.

Tell us one strategy on being successful in real estate investing.

One strategy that’s going to be key is what we talked about and that is focus. You’ve got to focus, explore what the options may be, whatever it is, focus on the one thing and then work through it. As Moneeka said, “Keep going.” When it gets difficult, don’t turn and say, “No. I’m going to try this next thing.” Stay with it and stay focused.

What is one daily practice, Randy, that you do that you would say contributes to your personal success?

You’ve got to have a daily routine right out of the gate in the morning to ground you. For me, I spend probably an hour every morning where I’m praying, reading the Bible, meditating, visualizing, developing a spirit of gratitude and genuinely being thankful for blessings in my life like my wife and I can see us getting married. Waking up in the morning and being grateful for it being here for another day and developing that. Being grateful for the outcomes I want for the day as though I’ve experienced them. Developing a practice in a ritual so that the first thing you do in the morning is not look at this or check your email or whatever, but to connect so that you can be grounded, focused and energized for the day.

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Real Estate Focus: Focus and explore all available options you may have. Then, pick one thing you want to concentrate on and work through it.

 

I love this whole thing about being grateful for what you achieved in the end of the day, but you start in the beginning of the day. That’s a beautiful visualization practice. I’m going to take that one.

In connecting it together, I have a sequence of three things I visualize and typically, one of them is almost always my wife and I can see us walking down the aisle, getting married and how grateful I was. She’s a beautiful soul and beautiful lady. One other thing, that’s a big thing a lot of times is my daughter being born or some experience. We had her and I on a dive trip and then one small thing. Now, you’re in the spirit of gratitude for these things you’ve already experienced. I next go individualizing and being grateful for this complex coming together that we’re under negotiation to buy or the successful outcome of whatever this thing I’m working on now. That gratitude energy is already there from you having experienced those already moments. These ones become real. It’s super powerful.

Thank you so much for everything you’ve offered on this portion of the show. I can’t wait until EXTRA.

Thank you so much, Moneeka. It’s been fantastic.

Ladies, thank you for joining Randy and I, for this portion of the show. Stay tuned for EXTRA where we’re going to be taking a deep dive on the true power of syndication and how you can benefit from that. If you are subscribed to EXTRA, stay tuned. If you’re not but would like to be, go to RealEstateInvestingForWomenExtra.com. You get seven days for free. This might be the time to jump in there and subscribe and take a look at this EXTRA. Thank you so much for joining Randy and I. Until then, remember goals without action are just dreams. Get out there, take action and create the life your heart deeply desires.

 

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About Randy Lawrence

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Randy Lawrence is known as a veteran real estate investor with decades of experience with single- and multi-family properties as well as a transformational community leader and church founder.

After receiving a degree in Finance with a minor in Economics, Randy began his career as a traditional wealth manager. Randy understands finance and investing strategies in the broadest sense. Randy previously held Series 7 and 65 licenses from the National Association of Securities Dealers as a Securities Dealer and Registered Investment Advisor. Randy worked in the Money Management sector for fifteen years and owned his own company which he sold in 2006. Ultimately Randy determined that real estate was the ideal investment vehicle for his own portfolio, and early on (over sixteen years ago), he began partnering with other investors, to their mutual benefit.

Today, Randy oversees a real estate portfolio of $160MM in multi-family assets and is on track to double these holdings in the next three years.

 

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Live Fearlessly With Rhonda Britten – Real Estate Women

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Life can be tough. There will be moments where the only way we think we can cope through is by wallowing in fear and becoming the victim of what happened to us. Rhonda Britten chose the other way and decided to live fearlessly. This Emmy Award winner and master coach who has changed lives in over 600 episodes of reality television joins Moneeka Sawyer in this episode to share with us her inspiring story. Not without her own difficulties, Rhonda takes us to the worst day of her life, leading her to spiral out of control and, later on, finding her way into the person who helps others come out of the victim story, build the strength to overcome fear and take on life in a bold and fearless way. Join her in this conversation to start your way into the fearless journey of owning your power.

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I am so excited to welcome to the show our guest, Rhonda Britten. She is an Emmy Award winner, repeat Oprah guest and master coach that has changed lives in over 600 episodes of reality television. She authored four bestsellers including her seminal work, Fearless Livingtranslated into eighteen languages, and founded the Fearless Living Institute, the home of Fearless Living Life Coach Certification Program. It is considered the Ivy League of life coach training.

She was the first life coach on television in the world and appeared for three seasons as the head life coach and the hit daytime NBC show Starting Over. She was named its most valuable player by the New York Times and heralded as America’s favorite life coach, she brings the neuroscience of fear down to earth, giving you a path out of not being good enough using the “Wheels” technology she developed that saved her own life. She’s been read, heard and watched by millions, coached tens of thousands of clients, trained hundreds of coaches and wants to share all that she knows with you too. Welcome to the show, Rhonda. How are you?

I am so excited to be here. Every day is a good day to get fearless. Specifically, now is a good day to get fearless because of your topic. I love what you do.

Thank you. I love what I do too and I love what you do so we’re going to be a match made in heaven. Rhonda, tell us a little bit about you. I’d love to hear your story.

What you’re asking about is what got me here. What made me Rhonda Britten? Why me, why now, why do I get to even tell anybody about fear and how to get fearless? What gives me the right? Let me say I didn’t read it from a book even though I read a lot of books, and I didn’t learn it at a workshop even though I’ve taken a lot of workshops. The work of Fearless Living is from my own life experience and soul. As you said earlier about it saved my own life and it did.

I’m going to share the worst day of my life. It was Father’s Day. I was fourteen years old. I grew up in a little tiny town in Upper Michigan, 365 inches of snow a year, two restaurants, we’re talking little. My parents had separated. My father was coming to take us out to brunch. I don’t know about you but we didn’t grow up going out to dinner. There are three kids and two adults. There are five people. That’s a lot of people. My dad coming to take us to brunch is the biggest deal. I’m so excited because we never go out to eat. My mother made me a brand new dress. That’s how fancy it was. My mom is in her bedroom, putting on a blue eye shadow and fluffing for a beehive. My dad walks in. My sisters are fighting it out in our one bathroom.

Me, my mom and dad start walking out. My sisters still fighting out in our one bathroom. As me, my mom, and dad with my sisters still in the bathroom, go start walking out to the car. It starts raining. My dad looks at me and says, “I got to get my coat from the car.” He takes the key in, puts it in the trunk, and opens it up. Out of the corner of my eye, I see that he is not grabbing a coat. He is grabbing a gun and he starts screaming, “You made me do this,” and he fires. He shoots my mother. I start screaming, “Dad, what are you doing? Stop.”

He cocks the gun and he looks at me. I look at him and he blinks an eye. I’m 100% believe I’m next. I’m going to be dead in five seconds. My mother, with already a bullet inside of her, looks up and sees that gun in my face and screams, “No, don’t,” with her last breath. My father realized that my mother is still alive. He takes up a bullet intended for me and shoots my mother a second time. That second bullet enters my mother’s abdomen and goes out the back of her into the car horn. For the next twenty minutes, all I heard was a horn. The next second, my father cocks the gun again, drops to his knees, puts the gun to his head and fires. When I’m fourteen years old, I am the sole witness to my father murdering my mother and committing suicide in front of me.

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I don’t know how you would have responded. This is how I responded. I blamed myself because I was the only one physically outside that could have stopped it. I didn’t grab the gun. I didn’t kick my father in the shin. I didn’t jump in front of my mother even. I froze there saying, “Stop dad, stop.” That day, looking back on it, I split into two. The girl who had to be okay because I grew up in Upper Michigan, Upper Minnesota, suck it up, and everything is fine. I lived most of my life telling everybody I was fine where the internal part of me, the part that split off, was anything but fine. I was so not fine.

For the next several years, I had the battle within. The outside me, straight A student, I got a scholarship to college. I’m going to be all right. The internal me that started drinking and doing things in order to distract myself. I became an alcoholic, got three DUIs and had three suicide attempts. It was a third suicide attempt that I realized I’m not very good at killing myself. I got to figure out another way. I want to preface this by saying one thing. During those twenty years of me drinking, committing suicide, getting DUIs, remember, I split into two so there was another part of me that was perfectly wonderful. If you would have met me, I would have been like, “I’m fine.”

I read and I did everything to help myself. I went to workshops, I read books. You name it, I’ve done it. I have done everything. During those years, I tried to do everything to help myself. It wasn’t until that third suicide attempt that I realized all the things that I had tried were good information. It was a good knowledge to have but it fundamentally did not change how I felt about myself. It was good things to know but in the middle of the night, I still thought there’s something seriously wrong with me. When I got home from the psychiatric ward in my third suicide attempt because that’s where they put you when you try to kill yourself three times. They take you for evaluation. I was deemed not crazy. I went home, and said to myself, “If I’m going to live, I can’t keep doing this. I can’t keep living this. I have got to figure it out.”

Out of desperation, I started making exercises for myself. I thought to myself, I have to begin again. I got to go back to kindergarten. Shockingly to me, they started working. I didn’t think it was going to be for anybody but me. In fact, I was embarrassed that I had to create exercises because it seemed workshops, books, and therapy to helped everybody else but they didn’t help. I didn’t think differently of myself. I started making exercises and again, I didn’t think it was for anybody, but me and then a couple at church, chase me out one day and was like, “What are you doing?” I’m like, “What are you talking about? I’m not doing anything.” They’re like, “You’re doing something?” I’m like, “What? I’m not.”

It’s because I was embarrassed that I was so screwed up that workshops, books, and therapy didn’t help me and purge me of my negative thoughts. They kept badgering me. I’m like, “I’ll make it up in exercises.” They’re like, “Give me one.” I gave him one. The next week they came back and said, “It’s working. Can I have another one?” I’m like, “What?” That was the first moment that I was like, “Maybe this isn’t just for me. Maybe I just didn’t go through twenty years of how. This might have another purpose and another meaning.” I didn’t start teaching and coaching firm for years after that. There was no such thing as coaching when this happened.

I slowly but surely started doing the steps necessary in order to teach and coach. I was introduced to a mentor. Shockingly, Fearless Living, not only has it changed my life significantly but it has changed my clients’ lives and my students’ lives, and it’s miraculous. I’m very grateful that I had the opportunity to experience the life I’ve lived so far. People ask me all the time, “Would you rather have your parents alive or be Rhonda Britten?” I go, “Of course, I’d rather have my parents alive.” I am very grateful that I was willing, out of desperation, to do the work necessary in order to change my life.

It’s such an amazing story, Rhonda. It is true that there are so many people that will not do the work instead of being fearless or blissful to choose to wallow in the victimhood of, “Look at what happened to me.” I will say more people will do that than less. There’s a comfort zone about being the person that lived that life. Identifying yourself as that person, rather than trying to recreate who you are.

When I give a keynote, teach a class, or we’re talking about excuses, I say, “I have the ultimate excuse.” If I was an alcoholic on the side of the road, messed up somewhere, not living my life as me, or not living my true nature, nobody would say, “Poor Rhonda.” Everybody would be like, “You know what happened to Rhonda.” They would give up on me because I have a good excuse to be messed up. This is why I do what I do. It’s exactly what you’re saying right now. It takes tremendous courage for some people to get out of bed in the morning.

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Fearless Living: Live Without Excuses and Love Without Regret

For many years, it did me as well. It takes tremendous courage to get out of the victim’s story. I do believe that the only reason I got out of the victim’s story is because I got so desperate. I had tried so hard to change my life as well as keep my victim’s story but that doesn’t work. You have to let go and transform the victim’s story. You have to make it a victor story. You have to become victor but that takes great courage. There are a lot of people that stay in victim mode but I don’t blame them for that because we’re not taught.

We don’t understand how fear works because this is, again, why I do the work I do. I went to therapy and I did workshops but no one explained. They told me a lot of stuff but it didn’t fundamentally change my view of myself. The work that I do is I help people that feel like, “I’ve done everything. Why can’t I get this?” “I’ve done so many great things but why do I still have this it’s that?” It’s, “Why do I still or why can’t I get?” It is a new awareness, transformational and view of how fear works. Once you understand fear in the way that I do, all that guilt and shame fall off and that victim can be put to bed.

I would never blame someone for staying in that victim’s place. A lot of people are in that place and don’t even realize it because that’s not what it looks like. Victimhood comes in so many different shapes, forms, words, thoughts and all of that stuff. I don’t blame anybody. A lot of it is propagated by television, advertising, and news, all of those things which is why I don’t watch television. I’m careful about what’s around me but we can’t completely seal ourselves off from the world either and we wouldn’t want to.

We want to live fully. Building the strength to move yourself out of that is a hard thing. What’s interesting here is that your story is not the same as mine but I too have dealt with a lot of trauma. On the other side of that, I also became a coach. For me, I decided that my path was to focus on bliss, you have chosen the path to focus on fear. They’re the same but with different clothes. It’s not fear but fearless. It’s the lack of fear. Could you talk to me a little bit about why you made the choice to go that route?

That’s at the heart of what is stopping all of us. I believe that when you understand how fear works, life changes for you and you can be blissful. I’m sure that you’ve experienced people that want bliss but they keep getting tripped up. That trip is a sign that fear is in control. Also, for me, I’m committed. Let’s put it this way, for all of my life when I was going through alcoholism, suicides, etc., I never would have said I’m afraid. That’s the irony of this all. If you would have asked me if I’m afraid, I would be like, “No,” because I also think that people don’t even know they have fear and they’re being a victim.

They know that their life is stuck, they’re not doing what they want, they’re overwhelmed, procrastinating, perfectionism and anxious. That’s what they know. What they don’t know is all of that stems from fear. You can’t be anxious, overwhelmed, procrastinate, or infectious without a fear. When I understood how fear worked and it was God-given insight, it didn’t come from me, my life clicked into place. Everything was clicking.

I saw myself completely different. I saw the world differently because neuroscience says, “You can change your thoughts, feelings, values and beliefs. It’s a good exercise, but if you do not change the fundamental filter and system in which you operate out of, you will not create lasting change.” I help people move from that fear-based filter which they don’t even know they have to one of freedom such as bliss so that they can shift at because there’s no getting rid of fear. It’s part of our neurobiology. If you don’t understand how fear works, fear will always win and it’ll always trip you up. For me, fear is the fundamental building block of a blissful and fearless life. Without it, you’re going to keep getting stopped by it.

I have a thought around fear because this is the question that I get a lot because I talk a lot about fear in my work too. You’re right, it is foundational. Some people will say to me, “Fear is here to help us to survive. It’s a natural, good thing.” If I see a fire, fear is what makes me not put my hand in the fire. If I see cars whizzing by, fear is what makes me not jump in front of a car running across the street. Let’s talk about that. The fear that’s healthy, real, and serves us and then the fear that you’re talking about.

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You’re talking about two different fears. You’re talking about fears instinctual to stay physically alive and we’re talking about emotional fears. I coined the term emotional fears because there was no way to describe the fears that I was talking about every day. When people talk about the whizzing traffic and the hot stove, that is instinctual, physical survival. That is physical fear. What I’m talking about and I’m sure what you talk about is emotional fears like fear of rejection, failure, inadequate, incompetent, worthless, being a loser, being stupid and being selfish. People get caught in like, “Isn’t fear good?” Yes, fear is good but if you do not know how to identify when anger is being used in fear versus freedom because anger in and of itself is neutral.

All feelings, beliefs and values can be used in service to fear of freedom. Everybody wants to have integrity. It’s one of the biggest goal like, “You have so much integrity. You’re so authentic.” A lot of people use the value of integrity through the lens of fear. If you have integrity and you’re in freedom, you’re flexible even though you have integrity. You can renegotiate. You can put your needs forward but people that use integrity out of fear, which is many people, is very rigid. They say things like, “I said I was going to do it and I’m going to do it, no matter what.”

Integrity is superseded like fear has danced with integrity. They’re using integrity as a positive but in reality, it’s fear-driven. What I always say there is no such thing as negative feelings. One of my clients said to me, “When my husband came home, he’s so negative.” I’m like, “What did he say?” “He was telling me about some guy at work that having a heart attack. I told him to quit being so negative.” I go, “That’s not negative. That’s information.” People have confused this whole conversation of what’s negative and positive. The frame needs to change to fear of freedom. We have this whole negative and positive. It’s so limiting and false. It keeps us trapped.

Talk to me about this whole concept of “I’m not good enough” that you address quite a lot.

I am not good enough as we know, from a spiritual perspective, that’s an illusion. We know that logically. We can understand that yet. It feels real when we’re feeling it. When I feel I’m not good enough, I feel it. One of the things that I work with my clients on is separating themselves from the feeling and all of the work out there that’s like, “Feel it.” It’s like, “No.” I could go on and on with feelings. There are people like, “You have to go with the feeling tone.” If you do not have awareness of where that feeling tone is coming from, you are going to be courting a feeling tone that is going to get you in places that is not good for you. That is fear-based even though it looks like it’s not.

What’s that healing tone mean?

For instance, there’s a lot of teachers out there that are like, “Go with the positive feeling tone. Get into the feeling. Let the Law of Attraction work.” It’s like, “Get into the feeling. Be the feeling. Feel the car in your hands.” That’s awesome. There is no problem with that, but if you’re driven to Law of Attraction and you want to get the car because the car is a status symbol, it’ll make you feel better, and you think you’re worthy of the car, you’re being attracted to the car out of fear. People don’t know that. They’re courting a feeling that they think is positive but it’s fear-based.

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Live Fearlessly: Your victimhood comes in so many different shapes, forms, words, and thoughts.

 

When I talk about people not feeling good enough, one of the things that I work with people on is separating themselves and having the awareness of how fear shows up in their life versus how freedom shows up in their life. I give people a little quiz and I ask them to rate themselves because again, as I said earlier, most people don’t even know they’re afraid. I am not good enough is an illusion. It’s a lie or fear. By the way, fear is smart. It is as smart, educated, spiritual and knowledgeable as we are. If you have evidence because excuses need evidence to make them excuses, fear takes that excuse and evidence and makes it real. You believe that you’re not good enough you because you have evidence to point to.

If you have evidence to point to, you believe the evidence because it’s right there. You’ve had three people say something, you failed three times or you have these two things happen and it’s clearly true and it feels true. What I want to do is help my clients separate from the feeling versus what freedom is. I want to have them separate those feelings, thoughts, and behaviors and choose freedom which is going to feel uncomfortable and not be something they want to do which they want to do intellectually but they don’t want to go through it. It’s like, “You got to go through the eye of a needle.”

I always say, my job and I’m sure your job is, “I hold your hand while you’re going through it. You’re not alone.” It’s not as scary as you think when you have the support and the tools that will help you get there. You need to see some guidance. My clients and my students are apprentice. I’m apprenticing them. I’m going to teach them how to be fearless as I’m sure you do as well. I’m not good enough as an illusion and the minute you believe that, fear wins.

I want to sit in everything you say for minutes and take it in. Let’s talk a little bit about this whole thing like you were saying about your client that, “My husband is so negative.” This has happened to me too. There are people that I love in my life that every single time I talk to them, they’ve got something to say that feels bad to me. They have some political spouting that they feel they need to do or they’ve got some complaint about that person. I’m like, “That’s all they do.” I would say those people are complainers and they’re negative. I want to spend as little time as possible as I can with them. I try to have as much compassion as possible but they feel negative. How do you deal with those kinds of people?

I don’t see them as negative. I see that they’re hanging on for dear life trying to find connections through their fears. Are they complaining? They might be complaining but people complain for connection. If you listen to complainers, they’re advertising their fears. They’re telling you what they’re afraid of. If you talk about the fears rather than the complaint, the conversation has an opportunity to change. Do you have to stay in a relationship with people that aren’t your cup of tea? No, but I do want my clients to have the skill to go to a family event. Their uncle is there and doesn’t believe what they believe or grumpy, old and complaining all the time.

I want them to be able to look at that uncle, love them to pieces, be able to be in somebody’s presence and recognize that the person itself is not flawed. The person who’s complaining that is “negative” is for you to see them and to give them empathy, compassion and innocence. That’s what they are crying for. The more that you can see their innocence, listen to anything in anybody and be completely sending love, innocence and connection then you do know who to hang out with and who not to hang out with. I’m not saying hang out with all those people that are complainers but I also believe that complainers, not everybody are doing it to be heard.

Can you hear what they’re saying underneath the words? Not label them negative. Anytime you call somebody negative, it writes them off. That’s not what you do because you give them compassion. I’ll preface this again by saying I am not saying you have to be in a relationship with abusers, betrayers, and people that reactivate your trauma every day. No, I do not want that for you. I also want you to have the skill of knowing what’s happening rather than you running. I don’t want my clients to hang out with their trauma abusers, the perpetrators. I want them to be awake to what’s going on underneath the surface like what’s really happening so that they don’t get caught in it themselves and keeping themselves afraid.

It’s very empowering to know that you can walk into any room and handle almost any conversation. Even if you don’t want to engage in that conversation, you can still have compassion. It’s a very empowering, uplifting filter, as you might call it, to see people asking for help rather than trying to offend you.

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I love that you brought this up because having fearless conversations is one of the superpowers I have and one of the things I teach my students because not only do I want you to be able to go to a room and have a conversation with anybody but I also want you to be able to say, “No, thank you,” as well. Be able to be like, “That’s not happening.” Your no is as powerful as your yes. One of the things that I say all the time is, “If you can say no, your yes is meaningless.” If you don’t have permission to say no or yes for any question or invitation asked, then you are being driven by fear.

I’m not talking about your high school reunion where you’re like, “I’m going. Yes, I want to go.” That’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about if somebody asks you to do something and you’re like, “I better do it,” out of guilt and shame. If you’re doing something out of should, you haven’t put through the filter of what if I say no or yes and made a choice to say yes, then you are being a victim of circumstances. You’re being driven by fear. We all do that all day long. One of the exercises I give to my clients is keeping track of their shoulds every day. It’s shocking to them because they had no idea how everyday decisions were increasing their fear and powerlessness.

What came up for me around that is how much we should on other people too. We don’t feel we have a choice of yes or no then we expect others to be okay with not having a choice of yes or no. The more that you allow your own freedom, choice and power, you can then open yourself up to be that person for the people around you and then everybody expands. Love can be so much more intense, beautiful and learning expansion business, all of those things.

I’m so grateful that you said that because that is true.

I feel like we could talk forever. We’re soul sisters, Rhonda. We do have EXTRA. Rhonda and I are going to be sharing more in EXTRA. She has an interesting thing that she wants to share with you that’s called the Control or No Control Process. Could you tell us a little bit about that?

Let’s say that I had an actor come to me once as a client who said to me, “Acting is luck. I can’t seem to get any lucky breaks.” In acting, we all heard that like, “It’s a lucky break.” All the exercises that I create are either myself-generated because I need it and/or client-generated. One of my superpowers is creating unique individualized, personalized exercises is to help people truly transform in a matter of quick minutes. In that moment, he’s sitting in front of me and I’m like, “I’m going to make up this exercise.”

What it does is when you go through the exercise and when you do the follow-through, you will no longer have that feeling of powerlessness or that “should” feeling. You’re going to take your power back. You can finally get through uncertainty. You can get through the unknown and what ifs. All of those things that stop us from making decisions or makes us feel that life isn’t fair. The control, no control exercise is also going to take away that fear like, “They got something that I didn’t,” “I need a lucky break. If I was raised them then my life wouldn’t be this.” All of that conversation of powerlessness, frustration and insecurity, you’re going to see it through a very different lens and I’m going to give you some things to do so you can move from that place whenever you feel it into a different arena.

That’s going to be amazing. That’s coming up in EXTRA. It’s so awesome. Rhonda, how can people get in touch with you?

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Live Fearlessly: If you do not change the fundamental filter and system in which you operate out of, you actually will not create lasting change.

 

Go to FearlessLiving.org. I do have a free gift if I may.

Please share.

Go to FearlessLiving.org/Risk. When you go there, you’re going to see a page for an exercise called Stretch, Risk Or Die that will take your to-do list. That procrastination and perfectionism. Why don’t I get this done? You get your ten things on your task list and you do 1, 2, 3, skip 3 and 4, do 5, 6, 7, skip 8. Those 3, 4, 8, you put to the next day and you keep on skipping them. I’m going to show you what’s behind that skipping and what to do instead. I’m going to start you on the fearless journey of taking your power back so that you can take Stretch, Risk and Die in your life because that’s how you’re going to get comfortable in your own skin and take your power back.

I knew that when we were talking about it. As you said, this is the ultimate cure for procrastination.

It is the absolute, actual cure. You going to put your to-do list on its ear. The way you think of your goals and dreams you have for your life, you’re no longer going to think of them as a task list. You’re going to think of them through a different lens. You’re going to think about them through the emotional risk it takes because every action and new thought you have has an emotional risk to it. You’re not doing things in procrastination, perfectionism, overwhelm or anxiety because you’re not awake to the emotional risk it takes.

This exercise is going to show you how to take worksheets in there for yet. It got everything for you. It’s a very quick class. It’s three videos, fifteen minutes each so you’ll be able to have worksheets. The third video talks about the wheel of fear which is the core of my work. You’re going to see a little preview of that and it’s going to give you space to get off your back and quit beating yourself up about not doing things when you think you should.

The link for that is BlissfulInvestor.com/FearlessYou. Go get that amazing gift by Rhonda. Thank you so much for that. That is so generous.

You’re welcome. It’s my pleasure.

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Rhonda, are you ready for our three rapid-fire questions?

Yes.

Give us one super tip on getting started investing in real estate.

Number one thing, you must be worth your future. You must decide that you’re worth your future because investing is a short versus long game. It’s a long game. Short-term thinking is based in fear. You’ve got to decide that you are going to make yourself worthy of long-term investment because you are worthy of success. You are worthy because fear no longer plays with you because you’re going to do Stretch, Risk Or Die and you are going to know what to do.

Give us one strategy on being successful in real estate investing.

Nothing is going to happen on your timeline. If you can embrace the uncertainty of success, you will be successful. If you are looking for certainty in success, you will never be successful. You might have one hit there. You might be randomly successful, but success is based on your ability to live in uncertainty. When you can live in uncertainty, you can then have the freedom to take the risks necessary to get where you want to go in the timeframe you want to get there per se. Success is never going to happen on your timeline.

By the way, I’ll tell you one other thing, a bonus tip. What you think success is now will transform in the future. I don’t want to say nothing as you think but trust me, it is going to be better than you can imagine. What I imagined my life would be 25 years ago when I started, I could never have imagined where I am. Your imagination is less than what’s possible for you. You keep following the breadcrumbs of your imagination and your desires. Remember, uncertainty is the skill that you must embrace in order to be successful.

I have to say that I feel exactly that same way because I tell my husband all the time, “How did we get here? We never could have planned for this. We could never have imagined. This life is so much bigger than we could have ever dreamed up.” Thank you, we stayed open for that.

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Live Fearlessly: All feelings and beliefs can be used in service to fear of freedom.

 

It takes courage to be open. People have this timeline and it’s like, “You don’t understand.” Timelines are nice. It’s good to have goals and dreams but they’re loose structures. If you make them your God, savior, and answer, you’re missing the point.

What would you say is one daily practice that you use that contributes to your personal success?

Acknowledgment is critical in the world of Fearless Living and there are so many. We have a daily practice of three things a day every day. Acknowledgment is my number one. Acknowledgment in the world of Fearless Living is “I acknowledge myself for” and you acknowledge yourself for any stretch, risk or die that you take during the day. That stretch, risk or die might be a new thought, new feeling, or new action but being willing to embrace that changes everything. Acknowledge yourself now. “I acknowledge myself for,” I got to write it down, five a day, and you will start recognizing your confidence increase within three days. I promise you that.

That’s beautiful, amazing stuff. Thank you, Rhonda.

You’re welcome.

Ladies, thank you so much for joining Rhonda and I for this portion of the show. I’m looking forward to what we’ve got coming up. In EXTRA where we’re going to be talking about control versus no control. Stay tuned for that if you are subscribed to EXTRA. If you’re not subscribed for EXTRA but would like to be, go to RealEstateInvestingForWomenExtra.com and you get the first seven days for free. You get Rhonda’s EXTRA. You can get as many as you can listen to in seven days. Check it out and see if it’s for you. If it is, you can stay with me and if not, you got a lot of good content. Thank you so much for reading this blog. I look forward to seeing you next time. Until then remember, goals without action are just dreams. Get out there, take action and create the life your heart deeply desires.

 

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About Rhonda Britten

REW 43 | Live FearlesslySpecialties: Top of the talent pool for changing lives through the mediums of television and radio. World-Class Speaker. Founder of “Ivy League of Life Coach Training” Life Coach Certification Program and Fearless Living Institute. 4x Bestselling Author. Named Coach of the Year. Teaches Advanced Coach Training @Fearless Conversations Workshop.

Rhonda Britten – Emmy Award-winner, Repeat Oprah guest, Huffington Post Contributor and Master Coach – has devoted her life to one thing: to teach people how to master fear.

Whether that’s a fear of rejection or loss; fear of failure or success; fear of abandonment or pain, she brings the neuroscience of fear down to earth giving you a path out of “not being good enough” using the “Wheels” technology she developed that saved her own life. What she teaches is what she’s lived.

Rhonda was the first Life Coach on reality television in the world on the first-show of its kind, Help Me Rhonda. Next, Rhonda changed lives on the hit NBC reality show Starting Over and named its “most valuable player” by The New York Times and heralded as “America’s Favorite Life Coach.” To date, Rhonda has altered lives in over 600 episodes of reality television that aired in more than 25 countries and impacted millions worldwide.

Media list includes: Today Show, Good Morning America, New York Times, Sunday London Times, Good Housekeeping, USA Today, Bill O’Reilly Show, etc.

Rhonda is a recipient of the “Coach of the Year” Award and keynoter for organizations such as; Southwest Airlines, Blue Shield of California, Northrup Grumman and many more.

Her “Life Coach Certification Program” is considered the Ivy League of Life Coaching Training. She also hosts Train-the-Trainer Programs using her work as the foundation to educate the world.

Rhonda’s four books include her bestselling Fearless Living, Change Your Life in 30 Days, Fearless Loving and Do I Look Fat in This.

 

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6 simple strategies for lowering today’s taxes with Mark Willis

Today I’d like to welcome to the show our guest Mark Willis!

About Mark Willis

Mark Willis is a man on a mission to help you think differently about banks, Wall Street and financial uncertainty. After graduating with six figures of student loan debt and discovering a way to turn his debt into real wealth as he watched everybody lose their retirement investments and home equity in 2008, he knew that he needed to find a sane way to meet his financial objectives and those of his clients.

Mark is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER, a #1 Best Selling Author and the owner of Lake Growth Financial Services, a financial firm in Chicago, Illinois. Over the years, he has helped hundreds of his clients take back control of their financial future and build their businesses with sophisticated. tax- efficient financial solutions. He specializes in building custom—tailored financial strategies that are unknown to typical financial gurus. As co—host of the Not Your Average Financial Podcast, he shares some of his strategies for investing in real estate, saving and paying for college without going broke, and creating an income in retirement you can’t outlive. Mark works with people who want to grow their wealth in ways that are safe and predictable, to become their own source of financing. and to create tax—free income in retirement.

In this episode of EXTRA we talked about:

  • 6 simple strategies for lowering today’s taxes. 

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Control vs No Control – Getting past overwhelm with Rhonda Britten – Real Estate Women

Today I’d like to welcome to the show our guest  Rhonda Britten

About Rhonda Britten

Rhonda Britten is an Emmy Award-winner, Repeat Oprah guest, and Master Coach and has changed lives in over 600 episodes of reality television, authored four bestsellers including her seminal work “Fearless Living” (translated into 18 languages), and founded the Fearless Living Institute, home of Fearless Living Life Coach Certification Program, considered the Ivy League of Life Coaching Training. 

She was the first Life Coach on television in the world and appeared for three seasons as the head Life Coach on the hit daytime NBC show, “Starting Over.” Named its “Most Valuable Player” by The New York Times and heralded as “America’s Favorite Life Coach,” she brings the neuroscience of fear down to earth giving you a path out of “not being good enough” using the “Wheels” technology she developed that saved her own life.  

She’s been read, heard, and watched by millions, coached tens of thousands of clients, trained hundreds of coaches, and now wants to share all she knows with you!

In this episode of EXTRA we talk about:

  • control and no control – taking back control from feeling overwhelmed 
  • A specific exercise you can use quickly to get back into feeling in control

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